Bismillah Ar Rahman Ar Rahim.
It happened so in March 2020, when we went into lock-down as a result of COVID19, I started having phone calls from many of my friends who were suddenly forced to home school their children. I was on the phone daily giving advice to these women on how they could get started with their home-schooling journey.
What I realized through my interviews and conversations that most of us have to tackle some of the basic parenting challenges we face daily before we could move on to taking our children’s academic education at home.
Most mothers would ask me:
- “But my children won’t listen. How do I speak to them so they do the work?”
- “But our routine is all over the place. I don’t know where to start or what to teach”
- “But I don’t think we can fit in schooling when everyone is at home”
- “Who does cooking and cleaning if I sit down teaching kids Maths, English and Science”
- “I am not a teacher. I don’t know what to teach or how to teach. And my kids don’t listen to me for doing chores, never mind schooling”
- “My children always fight and argue. I don’t know what to do. I am such a failure mother”
SubhanAllah, homeschooling is a huge responsibility. And I came to the conclusion that unless you have the right kind of parenting style in place- you can’t proceed onto homeschooling. What I mean by parenting style is having a huge amount of patience, choosing to respond as opposed to react, having the ability to explain and to reason, having the foresight and vision and to come up with rules and boundaries for everyone’s wellbeing, and showing leadership so that children actually follow these rules with natural consequences and rewards. We need to equip ourselves with many soft skills like communication, leadership, goal setting, organizing in order to succeed at parenting. It’s only then you can successfully teach your children academic subjects.
So with that belief, I started writing daily parenting and homeschooling articles in the hopes of helping many fellow Muslim mothers who were suddenly forced to stay indoors with their children 24/7. When everyone is at home 24/7, in between the four walls, it is only natural that our relationships intensify. You are on each other’s face all day every day. On top of your daily cooking, cleaning and working from home duties, you now have to supervise your children’s learning/schooling at home. What an overwhelming list of tasks!
We have to admit, the dynamics of today’s society to raise children is so different. They say it takes a village to raise a child but we have been left without a village in today’s contemporary society. We are just in a field which is vast, wild and overwhelming. Everyone is entangled in their own lives and have no time for each other. I hope the reflections, tips and tricks shared in this book bring a fresh breath of hope for you to have that sense of belonging. I hope it serves as your little village and as a perfect pick-me-up booklet to go through whilst having your tea in the evenings inshaAllah.
This is my first attempt to contribute towards easing and lightening the duties of parenting as a Muslim woman in today’s world.
I pray that Allah, The Almighty, accepts this humble effort from everyone who brought this ebook to you inshaAllah.